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Are you using busyness as an anaesthetic?

posted 20 Jul 2013, 21:48 by Suzi Wallis   [ updated 6 Dec 2013, 19:13 ]
Busyness can be used as an effective, although unhealthy, way of avoiding issues, emotions and challenges. The human subconscious needs to process information and experiences on a daily basis, so that sense can be made, and knowledge acquired from what you have been through. If you don't stop and just be, you may get symptoms like:
  • a foggy mind where it's hard to think
  • trouble making decisions
  • unusual dreams and/or nightmares
  • illness manifesting in your body
  • 'accidents' occurring seemingly out of nowhere
  • mental confusion
  • unexpected emotions coming up when you don't expect them (in particular anger and sadness)
  • painful experiences repeating themselves
You don't have to be out and about to be using busyness as an avoidance tool. How often are you waiting in a queue, and pull out your smart phone? Do you need to be constantly entertained? What might happen if you just sat and watched the world now and then? How do you feel about your own company? Even if you are a true extrovert, who needs to be around people to recharge, time with your own thoughts is the only way to truly assimilate knowledge and experience.

Over-busy people can often be poor listeners as their minds are jumping to the next thing they are planning (or the one after that). If you are constantly busy, you are less likely to be able to form authentic attachments to others. Slowing down just a little can reap all kinds of rewards. Give it a go and see what you notice.

It you want to grow wise, and not just older, consider taking 10-15 minutes out of your day just to think, process and be. If you choose a location that is nurturing to you, the benefits will be enhanced.

Suzi Wallis | Jun 2013