Choosing the right counsellor for you

How do I choose the right counsellor for me?

Choosing the right counsellor is a very important decision to make as you will be putting yourself in their hands, metaphorically speaking. There are many online directories available and you can also use a search engine.

Check that the counsellor has proper training and qualifications. In New Zealand, counselling degrees have only been offered since about the early 2000s, so many very effective, experienced counsellors have a Diploma qualification.

Professional bodies ensure that therapists practice with supervision, have regular professional development and adhere to a strict code of ethics. 

What is the most important element to get a good result out of counselling?

The answer to this question is the right fit with your counsellor. 

There are other important elements too - someone with the right kind of experience, qualifications and professional membership, but none of these things will work well if you don't have the right fit. If you don't "gel" with your counsellor; if the first session doesn't finish with a feeling of acceptance and rapport, then it's likely that you won't get the results you are after.

It may be tempting to go to someone who charges less, or who has time available that fits your schedule best - choosing using this criteria may mean that you don't get the right person. I can't emphasise how important it is to find someone that you feel comfortable with - it may be worth waiting for some additional funds (or talking to them to see if they access some funding for you), or getting time off another commitment to see the right counsellor for you. Finding the right person will probably mean you spend less overall - you may pay more per session, but you will probably need less sessions overall to get the results you want.

Trust your gut - have a good look through your potential counsellor's website, and allow yourself to get a sense of them. It is perfectly acceptable to telephone "interview" your counsellor before meeting.  

It is your right to choose the right person for what you want to achieve. It is the counsellor's responsibility to let you know if they are not comfortable working with you for any reason, or the goals you have talked about are outside their skillset.

A professional therapist will discuss the topic of "a good fit" with you during the first session.

Remember that you are the client; you get to choose what and who is right for you.

Types of therapists

There are different types of therapists; the type of person that will suit you best is based on your specific needs. More information to assist you in your decision is below.

Generally, cost to see each of the types of therapists below increases as you move down the list.