Recommended Reading

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After the Affair | for working through the impact for both partners of an affair, and making decisions for your short, medium and long term future

  • There is nothing quite like the pain and shock caused when a partner has been unfaithful. The hurt partner often experiences a profound loss of self-respect and falls into a depression that can last for years. For the relationship, infidelity is often a death blow. "After the Affair" is the first book to help readers survive this crisis.

  • Written by a clinical psychologist, it guides both hurt and unfaithful partners through the three stages of healing: normalizing feelings, deciding whether to recommit and revitalizing the relationship. It provides proven, practical advice to help the couple change their behavior toward each other, cultivate trust and forgiveness and build a healthier, more conscious intimate partnership.

Aroha's Way : A children's guide through emotions

  • This beautiful picture book takes children on a journey through emotions associated with anxiety and shows simple yet effective ways to help manage them.

  • At the back of the book, there is a section for parents and/or teachers to expand on Aroha's ways in more depth. Asking questions around those emotions to make it easier for children to recognise the emotion, and then a simple way to manage it.

  • "Aroha's Way is a beautiful, descriptive and relatable book - an important book - helping children to normalise, understand and even develop their own tools for dealing with their feelings." - Jenny Palmer, Author of Feel a Little.

  • Suitable for ages 5-12 years. A book that helps children label emotions associated with anxiety and provides tools to manage them. Parents/Teachers notes at the back included expanding on the story's tools.

  • The author is the winner of the 2018 NZ Book Awards Russell Clark Award for Illustration, and Gold Ledger Award for his book, Giants, Trolls, Witches, Beasts: Ten Tales from the Deep, Dark Woods. A beautifully created paperback children's book with 36 pages of full-colour illustrations by Craig Phillips.

  • Produced with the assistance of The Mental Health Foundation & Like Minds, Like Mine.

  • Please note, this is slightly smaller than the original size of our own published book. If you wish to order one with an embossed title and without clipping please order from www.wildlingbooks.com.

At the end of Holyrood Lane | supporting youngsters who have domestic violence in their lives

  • Flick is just like any other youngster. She loves to chase butterflies and jump in autumn leaves. But life at the end of Holyrood Lane is often violent and unpredictable due to the constant storms that plague her home, causing her to cringe with dread and flee whenever they strike.

  • Visually arresting, emotionally incisive, and ultimately uplifting, this beautifully crafted picture book provides a sensitive glimpse into one aspect of domestic violence and how it can affect young lives.

Beyond Words: Grieving when your child has died | "The death of a child is a heartfelt experience like no other. It is a deep grief experience that goes beyond words.

  • The loss affects bereaved parents emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually and socially. It makes more demands on them than most others ever realise.

  • Many bereaved parents say that the only people who can ever genuinely begin to understand what it’s like for them are other bereaved parents. Hearing from others who have ‘been there’ can make all the difference. For this reason, Beyond Words is a handbook that features the honest words, perspectives and suggestions of many bereaved parents. It also offers useful information about managing grief, support options and ideas that may be helpful on the grief journey.

  • It is comforting, encouraging, informative and practical.

  • It will also provide understanding and insights to professionals and others seeking to effectively support bereaved parents.

  • If you are interested in this book, you may like to look at Death Without Warning which offers information and support after any kind of sudden or unexpected death."

Brave | Curly teaches Loppy how to manage his worries, specifically his worries about going to school (it can be applied to any challenging situation)

  • Brave, the second book in the Lessons of a LAC series, provides kids with a strategy for how to face things that worry them. While kids are blessed with imagination, that can be a source of anxiety. However, it can also be tapped to help them to feel calm, confident and BRAVE!

  • In Brave, Curly teaches Loppy how to manage his worries, specifically his worries about going to school. However, the technique of helping children to ‘find their brave’ can be applied to any challenging situation.

Brene Brown has written a number of books about how courage creates a life worth living.

  • 287 titles exist in Book Depository alone. Check them out from the link above.

The Changing Man | a mental health guide for men

  • Too many men are suffering with their emotional health issues in silence, and male suicide rates are high. Men are affected by everyday stress, high workloads, anxiety and depression, loss of confidence or identity, relationship breakdowns, family disruption, addictions and trauma — just the same as women. But society has placed a stigma on men’s mental health. Men have found it hard to reach out in the past because of a sense of shame that comes from our society. But men are changing. They are re-defining what it is to be ‘strong’, and are more open to understanding their emotions and reaching out for help.

  • The Changing Man: A Mental Health Guide explores a range of issues affecting men’s emotional health and wellbeing, and provides a collection of tried and tested tools to ensure no man suffers in silence again. From dealing with addiction, to bettering relationships, overcoming depression, working through sexuality concerns and realising that it is okay not to be okay, The Changing Man’s methods and knowledge may just change your emotional health for the better. No shame. No silence. No anger.

Cookie | a heart-warming tale about the love between a dog and their person, and a sensitive exploration of depression and anxiety

  • Cookie loves Girl more than anything – even chasing balls and smelling smells! Sometimes Girl is too sad to play with Cookie, but that’s okay because Cookie is good at sad. You can lick it off, you know.

  • With beautiful words and playful illustrations, Cookie is both a heart-warming tale about the love between a dog and their person, and a sensitive exploration of depression and anxiety. From dog-lovers to children who share Girl’s feelings, everyone can learn something from this inseparable pair.

Courageous Lucy | a girl who liked to worry

  • Lucy worries about everything. She’s so skilled at worrying that she worries about things no one else even thinks about!

  • When a school musical is announced, Lucy wants to be part of it but is scared try out. Then, her teacher finds a part especially for her. Lucy stands proud and tall to be the best tree she can, even as her knees knock and her tummy ties in knots. Lucy’s bravery will show children everywhere that it’s okay to be worried, and they can still embrace opportunities!

Dancing with your Muse | for the adult who is trapped in their own psyche

  • Have you ever had a dream, but let it go because you were too afraid of failure to try?

  • Dancing with Your Muse is a heartfelt, motivational guide to understanding this fear, realising that you are not alone in it, and working past it to achieve your goals without inhibition.

  • Written in a gentle, contemplative tone, this book will encourage you to determine and strive for success on your own terms. Performers, business people, students, and everyday dreamers alike will learn to courageously choose the most direct pathways to creative success and, more importantly, personal fulfilment, holding only a desire to contribute fully to their own life.

  • Dealing with Depression offers a simple, easy to follow, non-judgmental and, above all, effective exploration of depression and how to manage it.

  • A range of strategies is outlined, including the physiological fundamentals of sleep, healthy diet and exercise as well as ideas from positive psychology that help us to take care of ourselves.

  • Case studies show how Jan Marsh’s approach can be tailored to the individual, enabling anyone to successfully deal with depression and get their life back.

Death without Warning | "For individuals and families/whānau affected by any kind of sudden or unexpected death, including accidental death, natural sudden death, suicide, murder and the death of a baby or child.

  • This invaluable New Zealand handbook offers key information about events that happen after a death and people who may be involved. It contains information about trauma and grief and strategies for managing them. It includes information on supporting children and teens.

  • Included also are brief quotes from many New Zealanders who have experienced a sudden death. It will be a valuable up-to-date tool for professionals working alongside bereaved people and has been made possible by the support of ACC and FDANZ.

Do I have go Give Up ME to be Loved by You? | For couples interested in creating freer, more joyful, and profoundly intimate relationships, it explores the delicate balance of being true to oneself and being loved by another.

  • This book can help couples anticipate and approach occasional or chronic conflict with compassion and creativity.

  • This classic text for couples interested in creating freer, more joyful, and profoundly intimate relationships explores the delicate balance of being true to oneself and being loved by another. Newly updated by the authors, here is the classic text for couples interested in creating freer, more joyful, and profoundly intimate relationships.

  • In their best-selling book about couple relationships, Jordan Paul and Margaret Paul explore the delicate balance of being true to oneself and being loved by another.

  • While couples think they are fighting about money, sex, or time, the authors reveal how such conflicts are almost always more deeply rooted and related to issues of self-protection. Offering a solid framework for conflict resolution, the authors guide couples in working through fears and false beliefs that can block the expression of loving feelings.

  • Stories of couples and examples of dialogue validate readers- feelings and experiences.

  • Sometimes Sophie worries — not during the day when she is busy with family and friends, but at night when everything is calm and quiet. Her family all try to help, but somehow they just make her worries worse. Until her mother thinks of a new approach … that might just involve an elephant or two!

  • But wait, don’t think about purple elephants, whatever you do! Whimsical and humorous, this little girl’s story of finding a way to ease her worry resonates with children and parents everywhere. Don’t Think About Purple Elephants is an excellent resource for social and emotional learning for parents and teachers.

Easy Way to Stop Smoking: Allen Carr’s Easy Way To Stop Smoking is the world’s best-selling book on how to stop smoking, with over 13,000,000 copies sold in over 38 different languages.

  • Allen Carr's hundred-cigarettes-a-day addiction drove him to despair, but after countless attempts to quit he disovered what the world had been waiting for - the EASY WAY TO STOP SMOKING.

  • Now recognised as the world's leading expert on helping smokers to quit, Allen Carr's informative, no scare tactics methods and techniques are a revelation for those desperate to kick the habit.

Everything is F*cked | a book about hope

  • From the author of the international mega-bestseller The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck comes a counterintuitive guide to the problems of hope.

  • We live in an interesting time. Materially, everything is the best it's ever been-we are freer, healthier and wealthier than any people in human history. Yet, somehow everything seems to be irreparably and horribly f*cked-the planet is warming, governments are failing, economies are collapsing, and everyone is perpetually offended on Twitter. At this moment in history, when we have access to technology, education and communication our ancestors couldn't even dream of, so many of us come back to an overriding feeling of hopelessness.

  • What's going on? If anyone can put a name to our current malaise and help fix it, it's Mark Manson. In 2016, Manson published The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck, a book that brilliantly gave shape to the ever-present, low-level hum of anxiety that permeates modern living. He showed us that technology had made it too easy to care about the wrong things, that our culture had convinced us that the world owed us something when it didn't-and worst of all, that our modern and maddening urge to always find happiness only served to make us unhappier. Instead, the "subtle art" of that title turned out to be a bold challenge: to choose your struggle; to narrow and focus and find the pain you want to sustain. The result was a book that became an international phenomenon, selling millions of copies worldwide while becoming the #1 bestseller in 13 different countries.

  • Now, in Everthing Is F*cked, Manson turns his gaze from the inevitable flaws within each individual self to the endless calamities taking place in the world around us. Drawing from the pool of psychological research on these topics, as well as the timeless wisdom of philosophers such as Plato, Nietzsche, and Tom Waits, he dissects religion and politics and the uncomfortable ways they have come to resemble one another. He looks at our relationships with money, entertainment and the internet, and how too much of a good thing can psychologically eat us alive. He openly defies our definitions of faith, happiness, freedom-and even of hope itself.

  • With his usual mix of erudition and where-the-f*ck-did-that-come-from humor, Manson takes us by the collar and challenges us to be more honest with ourselves and connected with the world in ways we probably haven't considered before. It's another counterintuitive romp through the pain in our hearts and the stress of our soul. One of the great modern writers has produced another book that will set the agenda for years to come.

  • The phenomenal classic that has changed the lives of millions of people around the globe". What are you afraid of? Public speaking; asserting yourself; making decisions; being alone; intimacy; changing jobs; interviews; going back to school; ageing; ill health; driving; dating; ending a relationship; losing a loved one; becoming a parent; leaving home, failure, believing in yourself...

  • Internationally renowned author Susan Jeffers has helped millions of people overcome their fears and heal the pain in their lives with her simple but profound advice. Whatever your anxieties, Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway (R) will give you the insight and tools to vastly improve your ability to handle any given situation. You will learn to live your life the way you want - so you can move from a place of pain, paralysis, depression and indecision to one of power, energy, enthusiasm and action.

  • An empowering and life-affirming book, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway will help you triumph over your fears and move forward with your life.

First, We Make the Beast Beautiful : A new story about anxiety | If you have anxiety, this book is for you. If you love someone who is anxious, this book is for you.

  • I Quit Sugar founder and New York Times bestselling author Sarah Wilson has lived through high anxiety - including bipolar, OCD and several suicide attempts - her whole life. Perhaps like you, she grew tired of seeing anxiety as a disease that must be medicated into submission. Could anxiety be re-sewn, she asked, into a thing of beauty?

  • So began a seven-year journey to find a more meaningful and helpful take on anxiety. Living out of two suitcases, Sarah travelled the world, meeting with His Holiness The Dalai Lama, with Oprah's life coach, with major mental health organizations and hundreds of others in a quest to unravel the knotted ball of wool that is the anxious condition. She emerged with the very best philosophy, science and hacks for thriving with the beast.

  • First, We Make the Beast Beautiful is a small book with a big heart, paving the way for richer, kinder and wiser conversations about anxiety.

Grandma Forgets | the story of a family bound by love as they cope with their grandma’s dementia

  • Grandma Forgets is the heart-warming story of a family bound by love as they cope with their grandma’s dementia. Over the years, the little girl has built up a treasure trove of memories of time spent with Grandma: sausages for Sunday lunch, driving in her sky-blue car to the beach, climbing her apple trees while she baked a delicious apple pie, and her comforting hugs during wild storms.

  • A hopeful story about a family who sometimes needs to remind their grandmother a little more often than they used to about how much they care. She might not remember any of their names but she will always know how much she is loved.

Grandparenting Grandchildren | new knowledge and know-how for grandparenting the under 5s

  • Grandparenting Grandchildren is the first guide of its kind written specifically for grandparents, and aims to help you raise well-rounded, ready-to-learn, happy grandchildren.

  • It covers the key influences on healthy development: movement, music, sleep and food, explaining both how they benefit the brain and how to implement them in your grandchild’s life.

  • Learn to build a loving, supportive relationship, while constructing essential life skills for happy, capable, and confident learners.

Growing Pains | A touching story about curiosity, empathy, care of the environment, and overcoming fears

  • When Finn’s family plants a tree in their backyard, he feels responsible for it and worries the little sapling is cold, hungry or lonely. He tries to share his breakfast with it, offers it his scarf, and keeps it company. Just after going to bed, his nightlight goes out and Finn is plunged into darkness. But when he sees his tree standing tall and brave in the moonlight, it inspires him to be brave as well.

  • A touching story about curiosity, empathy, care of the environment, and overcoming fears.

The Highly Sensitive Person series: highly sensitive people (HSPs), who make up some 20 per cent of the population, are individuals who both enjoy and suffer from a finely tuned neurological system.

How to Control Your Anger, Anxiety and Depression: Using Nutrition and Physical Activity: Renata Taylor-Byrne and Jim Byrne have outlined key research findings on the relationship between diet and exercise, on the one hand, and the intensity of anger, anxiety and depression emotions on the other.

  • The book contains a list of foods that must be excluded to ensure optimal brain functioning and mood control. There is also a detailed consideration of a range of modern diets, with guidelines for developing a personalised diet; and the skills needed to change difficult dietary and exercise habits.

  • Renata Taylor-Byrne and Jim Byrne have outlined key research findings on the relationship between diet and exercise, on the one hand, and the intensity of anger, anxiety and depression emotions on the other. The book contains a list of foods that must be excluded to ensure optimal brain functioning and mood control. There is also a detailed consideration of a range of modern diets, with guidelines for developing a personalised diet; and the skills needed to change difficult dietary and exercise habits.

  • There are six parts to this book:

    • The first part deals with diet and nutrition and how they influence anxiety, anger and depression.

    • The second part of the book deals with physical exercise and how it can affect these common emotional problems.

    • The third part is a description of a 'stress and anxiety reduction' diet and offers guidelines for understanding different types of diets and their effects.

    • The fourth part shows some of the key findings from the science of nutritional deficiency, and the role of inflammation in the creation of depression.

    • The fifth part is a summing up of the key findings of the book, so that you can spot the most useful material that you can use for yourself - or for your clients, if you are a health-care or psychotherapeutic practitioner, counsellor or psychologist.

    • And the sixth part is our attempt to coach you through the process of habit change; and to give you a map to guide you through the process of accessing, learning and applying the transformative information in this book.

How to Escape from Prison | The Remarkable Story of How One Man Defied the Odds

  • At 18, Paul Wood thought he had lost everything. He had committed an act he knew would send him to prison for many years. To a young man like Paul, it might as well have been for the rest of his life.

  • Plunged into a nightmarish world of extreme violence, solitary confinement, gang allegiances, drugs, vindictive wardens and regular stabbings, Paul spent the next 11 years confined in some of New Zealand's toughest jails.

  • Based on an account of his experiences he wrote while still inside, How to Escape from Prison chronicles Paul's road to redemption and a new life as a doctor of psychology, helping others strive to fulfil their potential and develop the resilience to flourish, even in adversity. This is a gripping read about a man who sank to the depths of despair, before scaling the heights of true freedom.

  • 'Paul's transformation is unbelievable. We are sometimes brought up to think a zebra can't change its stripes. Paul Wood's story is proof that anyone can change. It gives you great courage that you can do anything.' - Sir John Kirwan

Innercise : The New Science to Unlock Your Brain's Hidden Power: In the 1950s and 1960s, Jack LaLanne revolutionized the physical fitness and health industry by promoting and teaching exercise and nutrition.

  • Today, we complete the fitness revolution with Innercise: a comprehensive guide to science-based mental and emotional techniques to strengthen your mindset and unleash the hidden power of your brain.

  • Lack of knowledge or skill is not what really holds you back. It is your mindset, emotional blocks, and deeply ingrained habits that you must release to clear the path to your greatest victories and successes. With Innercise, you'll learn to change your habitual patterns, and eliminate disempowering emotions like:

    • Fear of failure or success

    • Fear of being ashamed, embarrassed or judged

    • Low self-worth and self-esteem

    • Negativity and pessimism

    • Lack of confidence and certainty

    • Fear of disappointing yourself or others

  • Your limiting beliefs, stories, traumas and excuses are nothing more than reinforced subconscious patterns that cause you to think, feel, and consistently behave in ways that produce the same results again and again.

  • Now, cutting-edge technology and the science of neuroplasticity have finally unlocked the door to breaking free from these patterns. My hope in writing this book is that it will empower you to recognize and release whatever is holding you back from your fullest potential and the grandest vision for your life.

  • This book is for the individual who knows they are capable of achieving more wealth, greater health and business or career success yet for some reason, they haven't yet cracked the code to unlocking their fullest abilities and skills.

  • Innercise will help you understand how to master your inner game, so your outer game and results align with the internal vision you have for your life and family.

Invisible Jerry | a picture book with humour & heart for everyone who has ever felt like they're on the outside looking in

  • People don’t notice Jerry. If someone bumps into him, they don’t say sorry. If he makes a joke, no one laughs. He never gets picked last for sports teams — but that’s because he never gets picked at all. It’s like he’s invisible.

  • Until Molly comes along. Molly asks Jerry his opinion. She laughs with him. She sees him. This is a picture book with humour and heart for everyone who has ever felt like they’re on the outside looking in.

Lessons of a LAC | support children in learning to manage anxiety, and help them take crucial steps to understanding and dealing with their emotions

  • It’s tough to help an anxious child. Psychologist Lynn Jenkins knows this, from professional experience, and from being a mother! In Lessons of a Little Anxious Creature, she has created an essential emotional resource that encourages children to develop strategies for anxiety management, by discovering new, useful ways to think about their worries.

  • With this engaging book, you can support children in learning to manage anxiety, and help them take crucial steps to understanding and dealing with their emotions. It’s a fun and innovative way of building resilience, a foundation that will not only benefit kids now, but for the rest of their lives.

Lost Connections : Why You're Depressed and How to Find Hope: The New York Times bestseller from the author of Chasing the Scream, offering a radical new way of thinking about depression and anxiety.

  • There was a mystery haunting award-winning investigative journalist Johann Hari. He was thirty-nine years old, and almost every year he had been alive, depression and anxiety had increased in Britain and across the Western world. Why?

  • He had a very personal reason to ask this question. When he was a teenager, he had gone to his doctor and explained that he felt like pain was leaking out of him, and he couldn't control it or understand it. Some of the solutions his doctor offered had given him some relief-but he remained in deep pain.

  • So, as an adult, he went on a forty-thousand-mile journey across the world to interview the leading experts about what causes depression and anxiety, and what solves them. He learned there is scientific evidence for nine different causes of depression and anxiety-and that this knowledge leads to a very different set of solutions: ones that offer real hope.

Making Sense of Emotions (for children age 6-9): Making Sense of Emotions is a children's book based on understanding and coping with everyday life situations.

  • This book not only describes the link between all senses with our emotions, but also the importance of an overall good health. The goal is to help children appreciate the simple things in and around their lives, especially since we live in a world of technology. Readers will hopefully consider the control they have over their emotions by their thoughts and actions. Making Sense of Emotions is an informative book designed to provide a better understanding of one's self and how our surroundings impact the way we feel and think. Children have a great imagination; they just need a little help learning how to use it to their advantage.

  • There is also an audio book available for an older audience.

Mating in Captivity : Unlocking Erotic Intelligence: A New York City therapist examines the paradoxical relationship between domesticity and sexual desire and explains what it takes to bring lust home.

  • One of the world's most respected voices on erotic intelligence, Esther Perel offers a bold, provocative new take on intimacy and sex. Mating in Captivity invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.

  • Drawing on more than twenty years of experience as a couples therapist, Perel examines the complexities of sustaining desire. Through case studies and lively discussion, Perel demonstrates how more exciting, playful, and even poetic sex is possible in long-term relationships. Wise, witty, and as revelatory as it is straightforward, Mating in Captivity is a sensational book that will transform the way you live and love.

Matt Haig| a number of books to inspire & educate

  • Matt Haig is an English novelist and journalist. He has written both fiction and non-fiction for children and adults, often in the speculative fiction genre.

  • Some fantastic non fiction book include:

    • Humans: An A-Z: Whether you are planning a high level of human interaction or just a casual visit to the planet, this user-guide to the human race will help you translate their sayings, understand exotic concepts such as 'democracy' and 'sofas', and make sense of their habits and bizarre customs. A phrase book, a dictionary and a survival guide, this book unravels all the oddness, idiosyncrasies and wonder of the species, allowing everyone to make the most of their time on Earth.

    • Reasons to Stay Alive: Aged 24, Matt Haig's world caved in. He could see no way to go on living. This is the true story of how he came through crisis, triumphed over an illness that almost destroyed him and learned to live again. A moving, funny and joyous exploration of how to live better, love better and feel more alive, Reasons to Stay Alive is more than a memoir. It is a book about making the most of your time on earth.

    • The Comfort Book: Reflections on hope, survival and the messy miracle of being alive. It is a strange paradox, that many of the clearest, most comforting life lessons are learned while we are at our lowest. But then we never think about food more than when we are hungry and we never think about life rafts more than when we are thrown overboard. The Comfort Book is a collection of consolations learned in hard times and suggestions for making the bad days better. Drawing on maxims, memoir and the inspirational lives of others, these meditations celebrate the ever-changing wonder of living. This is for when we need the wisdom of a friend or a reminder we can always nurture inner strength and hope, even in our busy world. A book of timeless comfort for modern minds.

Mental Fitness | build your mind for strength & resilience every day

  • The bestselling author of How to Escape from Prison, prisoner-turned-psychologist Paul Wood on developing the mental strength and fitness to take on all of life's challenges

  • Getting and staying mentally fit, just like getting and maintaining a high level of physical fitness, involves hard work, effort, and consistency. Our level of mental fitness determines how effectively we can flourish through adversity, realise our potential, and be happier with our lives - regardless of what the universe has in store.

  • We all know about mental stress (or we think we do). We've definitely all experienced it, and none of us like it. Yet this is not a threat to be avoided. Mental stress is perfectly analogous to physical stress: it is the mind's way of telling us that what we are attempting to perform is challenging our resource. This is a catalyst for growth, and a sign we are pursuing our potential. When we experience stress, we have a choice: we can heed that signal and give up - after all, we're meant to stay in our psychic comfort zone all the time, right? Or we can recognise the discomfort we are feeling is simply nature's way of enabling us to rise to the occasion.

  • In Mental Fitness you will learn how to:

    • Increase your mental fitness, just as you would increase your physical fitness

    • Get closer to your potential by working proactively to maintain your mental fitness

    • Experience the right level of stress (this is what makes us get fitter)

    • Cope effectively for longer before you get fatigued or exhausted (it doesn't mean you don't feel the struggle)

    • Pay attention to the indicators of fatigue to avoid burnout and unnecessary misery

Mind Power into the 21st Century | In Mind Power Into the 21st Century, John Kehoe has articulated a set of life-changing principles for charting a course to success and happiness.

  • Mind Power Into the 21st Century presents the reader with a practical guide to harness the powers of your subconscious mind, tap into your creativity, build and maintain fulfilling relationships, and improve your self-image. Entertaining and informative, this is a must-read for anyone who truly wants to live life to its fullest.

No More Mr Nice Guy | to help men break the pattern of seeking approval as a motivation for their life decisions (and end the passive-aggressive pattern).

  • Originally published as an e-book that became a controversial media phenomenon, No More Mr. Nice Guy! landed its author, a certified marriage and family therapist, on The O'Reilly Factor and the Rush Limbaugh radio show. Dr. Robert Glover has dubbed the "Nice Guy Syndrome" trying too hard to please others while neglecting one's own needs, thus causing unhappiness and resentfulness.

  • It's no wonder that unfulfilled Nice Guys lash out in frustration at their loved ones, claims Dr. Glover. He explains how they can stop seeking approval and start getting what they want in life, by presenting the information and tools to help them ensure their needs are met, to express their emotions, to have a satisfying sex life, to embrace their masculinity and form meaningful relationships with other men, and to live up to their creative potential.

No Ordinary Moments, a story with incredible lessons on self discovery through adversity.

  • "Every day, we face challenges in relationships, sexuality, money, work, and health. While there is a wealth of information and advice available on all of these subjects, we still have trouble turning knowing into doing.

  • Here, Dan Millman presents a peaceful warrior's way to turn our intentions into action, our challenges into strength, and our life experiences into wisdom. Based on the premise that by changing ourselves we can change the world, No Ordinary Moments presents simple yet powerful ways to balance our body, liberate our mind, accept our emotions, and open our heart."

Outrageous Openness | "A playful, enlightening, and creative collection (Spirituality and Practice) of spiritual lessons, anecdotes, and thoughts on the Divine's intervention in our lives

  • "What if the Divine is constantly igniting roadside flares to get our attention? What if there actually is a Supreme Organizing Principle with an unbridled sense of humor? And what if we each have this ardent inner suitor who's writing us love letters every day that often go unopened?" Whether we know it or not, we all experience the touch of the Divine in our lives every single day.

  • After twenty-five years spent consulting and advising tens of thousands of people from all over the world, Tosha Silver realized that almost all of us have similar concerns: "How do I stop worrying? How can I feel safe? Why do I feel so alone?" and often, "Who am I really?" For the passionately spiritual and the bemusedly skeptical alike, she created Outrageous Openness.

  • This delightful book, filled with wisdom and fresh perspectives, helps create a relaxed, trusting openness in the reader to discover answers to life's big questions as they spontaneously arise. Outrageous Openness opens the door to a profound truth: By allowing the Divine to lead the way, we can finally put down the heavy load of hopes, fears, and opinions about how things should be. We learn how to be guided to take the right actions at the right time, and to enjoy the spectacular show that is our life.

Parenting Made Simple | straightforward, practical strategies for common childhood challenges

  • All children go through periods of poor behaviour, so parents need strategies to manage this. In this practical guide, Dr Sarah Hughes offers a warm and commonsense approach all parents can benefit from.

  • Dr Hughes delves into the behavioural development of children and roots out just why kids can’t always behave well. She answers hard questions with real-world examples and offers easy-to-implement, realistic approaches parents can adapt to a style of parenting that suits them.

Pear of Hope | the story of a little girl with cancer and her tale of recovery

  • Pear of Hope is the story of a little girl with cancer and her tale of recovery. This is intertwined with the growth of a pear tree, which symbolises the enigmatic concept of hope.

  • Told through sensitive words and gentle, beautiful illustrations, the story will comfort and inspire any children who are struggling to feel positive, whatever journey they may be on. It is a vibrant reminder of the beauty of the world around us and of the fact that, like Anna, with hope you can face any battle!

Purposeful Breathing | reset your mind • improve your energy • enhance your health

  • Purposeful Breathing is a practical, user-friendly guide to simple breathing skills that can rapidly reduce states you don’t want and increase states you do want. For anyone suffering from anxiety, feeling calmer can happen in a breath or two.

  • For anyone wanting to boost performance, the right breathing skills will help them to get into ‘the zone’. The book also teaches breathing skills for longer term health and healing, informed by new discoveries from psychology and neuroscience.

Scaredy Book: It’s not always easy to be brave!

  • Book lives at the library and desperately wants to go outside, but is intimidated by all the things that might happen ‘out there’.

  • Meanwhile, Emma loves visiting the library and delights in the many adventures to be had in the stories she finds there.

  • When Emma meets Book, they find they are just what each other needs. Children and parents alike will enjoy this story about being brave, taking risks, and living to tell the tale!

Self esteem improvement | a number of options at this search; see what resonates with you.


Sex Positive Talks to Have With Kids : A guide to raising sexually healthy, informed, empowered young people

  • Sex Positive Talks to Have With Kids is your guide to creating an open, shame-free connection with the young people in your world. These talks will help caregivers create the kind of bond that keeps kids safer, empowered, and returning to you for support along their journey.

  • Melissa Carnagey, renowned sexuality educator for youth and families, walks you through over 150 conversation starters, reflection exercises, and activities you can begin implementing at every age and stage on topics such as: bodies, consent, pleasure, sex, menstruation, gender, sexual orientation, safe & unsafe touch, pornography, feelings, relationships, and media literacy.

  • This inclusive, medically accurate, comprehensive guide is perfect for any parent or caregiver that's ready to normalize the talks and be that trusted adult we all needed growing up.

Skip the Drama | practical, get-ahead strategies to survive your daughter’s teenage years

  • Top specialist clinical psychologist Dr Sarah Hughes delivers new practical, immediate strategies for parents living with potentially difficult, rebellious, or irresponsible teenage daughters.

  • Supported by real-life examples, studies and research into the adolescent brain, Hughes’ solutions will help mothers and fathers grow a stubborn, reckless or challenging teenager into a well-adjusted, respectful, and self-sufficient young woman.

Sleep Sense | improve your sleep, improve your health

  • Sleep is fundamental to our health and wellbeing. In Sleep Sense, international sleep expert Dr Katharina Lederle draws on the latest research to explore how sleep is connected to each of the three pillars of successful living: physical health, cognitive performance, and emotional wellbeing. She then provides readers with a ‘menu’ of healthy sleep options from which they can choose in order to effectively establish better sleep habits that improve day-to-day health and wellbeing.

The Battle | starting school can be scary sometimes!

  • Edward is anxious to start knight-school. He puts on his armour, prepared for battle. It’s sure to be terrifying with all those ogres and dragons about. But at school, Edward is befriended by an ogre who offers him some of her lunch. Edward soon realizes that maybe things aren’t as bad as they first seemed. In fact, his armour was holding him back. As he learns to let his guard down, magic and fun await and Edward realizes the dragons and ogres he feared are actually just like him.

  • Is your heart fluttering in anticipation? Is your stomach tight with nerves? Are you falling in love? Feeling a bit miffed? Are you curious (perhaps about this book)? Do you have the heebie-jeebies? Are you antsy with iktsuarpok? Or giddy with depaysement?

  • The Book of Human Emotions is a gleeful, thoughtful collection of 156 feelings, both rare and familiar. Each has its own story, and reveals the strange forces which shape our rich and varied internal worlds. In reading it, you'll discover feelings you never knew you had (like basorexia, the sudden urge to kiss someone), uncover the secret histories of boredom and confidence, and gain unexpected insights into why we feel the way we do.

The Broken Road - A Mother's Journey | the story of a New Zealand woman supporting her daughter through sexual abuse at the hands of her best friend's husband.

  • Based on the #1 New York Times bestseller The 5 Love Languages(R)(over 12 million copies sold).

  • Dramatically improve workplace relationships simply by learning your coworkers' language of appreciation.

  • This book will give you the tools to improve staff morale, create a more positive workplace, and increase employee engagement. How? By teaching you to effectively communicate authentic appreciation and encouragement to employees, co-workers, and leaders. Most relational problems in organizations flow from this question: do people feel appreciated? This book will help you answer "Yes!"

  • A bestseller--having sold over 300,000 copies and translated into 16 languages--this book has proven to be effective and valuable in diverse settings. Its principles about human behavior have helped businesses, non-profits, hospitals, schools, government agencies, and organizations with remote workers.

  • PLUS! Each book contains a free access code for taking the online Motivating By Appreciation (MBA) Inventory (does not apply to purchases of used books). The assessment identifies a person's preferred languages of appreciation to help you apply the book. When supervisors and colleagues understand their coworkers' primary and secondary languages, as well as the specific actions they desire, they can effectively communicate authentic appreciation, thus creating healthy work relationships and raising the level of performance across an entire team or organization.

  • Take your team to the next level by applying The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace.

The Fix-It Man | a poignant picture book that explores how a child can cope with the loss of a parent

  • The Fix-It Man is a poignant picture book that explores how a child can cope with the loss of a parent (in this case, the young girl’s mother). Repairing damaged emotions is not as straightforward as gluing a broken kite back together or sewing up a torn toy.

  • And grief affects all members of a family, with each responding in their own way to the loss. By sticking with her father, the young girl is able to strengthen her resilience and ability to cope with one of life’s harshest experiences.

The Incredibly Busy Mind of Bowen Bartholomew Crisp | embracing diversity in a child's mind

  • Most children would say that the ocean is blue, but when Bowen looks at it he sees white where the waves crash, deep black on the ocean floor, and green when there’s a storm.

  • Bowen sees the world differently and struggles to fit in. When he turns his uniqueness into his greatest strength, however, he finds his place in the world.

  • Young readers, carers, teachers and psychologists alike will be inspired by this story of embracing diversity while also encouraging children to think differently.

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck | a counterintuitive approach to living a good life

  • New York Times Bestseller In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people. For decades, we've been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let's be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn't sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is-a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let's-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up. Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited-"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault."

  • Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek. There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

Through the Gate | the story of a child who has just moved house and is struggling to cope with all the changes in her life

  • Through the Gate tells the story of a child who has just moved house and is struggling to cope with all the changes in her life. She relates to the dilapidated house she has moved to, as she sits sad and forlorn upon its broken front step.

  • But, as the story unfolds, the house is gradually repaired paralleling how the child’s perception of her new situation improves. Each time the child passes ‘through the gate’, into the world beyond, she notices more of her surroundings and discovers that her new life has some wonderful things in it.

  • Within the illustrations is a ‘spot the difference’ game that encourages interaction with the story and develops observation skills. Younger children can be involved in spotting the more obvious changes and older children will be challenged with the more subtle transformations.

Tiny Habits | Why Starting Small Makes Lasting Change Easy

  • Improving your life is much easier than you think. Whether it's losing weight, sleeping more, or restoring your work/life balance - the secret is to start small.

  • For years, we've been told that being more healthy and productive is a matter of willpower: that we should follow the latest fad and make constant changes to our lifestyles. But whether in our diets, fitness plans or jobs, radical overhauls never work. Instead we should start with quick wins - and embed new, tiny habits into our everyday routines.

  • The world expert on this is Silicon Valley legend BJ Fogg, pioneering research psychologist and founder of the iconic Behaviour Design Lab at Stanford. Now anyone can use his science-based approach to make changes that are simple to achieve and sticky enough to last.

  • In the hugely anticipated Tiny Habits, BJ Fogg shows us how to change our lives for the better, one tiny habit at a time. Based on twenty years research and his experience coaching over 40,000 people, it cracks the code of habit formation. Focus on what is easy to change, not what is hard; focus on what you want to do, not what you should do. At the heart of this is a startling truth - that creating happier, healthier lives can be easy, and surprisingly fun.

Together Things | helping children to understand what's possible if a parent has mental health challenges

  • When her father feels sad, a little girl finds ways to keep the bonds of love alive

  • Her mother says you can’t see her daddy’s hurt because it’s inside his head …

  • One in five adults experiences depression in their lifetime, but young children are often left in the dark when their mother or father suddenly can’t play like they used to.

  • Together Things helps young children to understand that, while it is okay for them to feel mad or sad about this, sometimes they must do different things together while their parent focuses on their mental health and getting better.

Upside Down Friday | helping others and accepting change can reduce childhood anxiety

  • Hugo the monkey doesn’t like Upside-Down Fridays. His routine is the wrong way round, and school is a scary place full of uncertainty. However, with just a small gesture of friendship and understanding from Maddie the giraffe, Hugo begins to feel braver.

  • Upside-Down Friday reflects how helping others and accepting change can reduce childhood anxiety. With its emotive language and unique ‘upside-down’ illustrations, it is the perfect resource for building emotional resilience in children.

The Velveteen Rabbit | the Velveteen Rabbit's journey towards becoming real - through the love of a child

  • He didn't mind how he looked to other people, because the nursery magic had made him Real, and when you are Real shabbiness doesn't matter.

  • In the nursery, only the toys that are old and wise truly understand what it means to be Real. The Velveteen Rabbit, a newcomer to the nursery, asks one of the most knowledgeable toys, the Skin Horse, what being Real means. And so begins the Velveteen Rabbit's journey towards becoming real - through the love of a child ...

  • Margery Williams' timeless picture book classic has been read and cherished by many generations of children and their parents and is now available in this beautiful hardback edition.

  • Brought to life by gorgeous and much-loved classic illustrations by William Nicholson, with a new foiled cover design, this is a wonderful keepsake gift to treasure and share.

The Velveteen Principles | based on The Velveteen Rabbit - a lovely, gentle introduction to self awareness and living authentically.

  • In The Velveteen Principles, psychotherapist Toni D'Antonio laid out the 12 principles she learned about how to live an authentic life from the classic children's book, The Velveteen Rabbit. The timeless advice, compelling anecdotes and friendly, encouraging voice immediately struck a chord with thousands of readers and made the book a surprise hit in 2004.

  • This limited edition holiday release is a celebration of renewal and living a life that is true to one's aspirations. This beautiful gift book will be treasured for holidays to come.

  • What if...? | ‘what if…’ are two small words that lead to uneasy feelings. But maybe they can be used for something a little more fun…

  • For Issy, and many more little worriers, ‘what if…’ are two small words that lead to uneasy feelings. But maybe they can be used for something a little more fun…

  • In this colourful adventure, ‘what ifs’ become springboards for happiness and imagination. Why worry about monsters under the bed when you could wonder what if the clouds were purple and orange and green? Children will delight in this playful exploration of words and their power to change how we feel, turning anxiety into wonder.

The Winner's Bible - rewire your brain for permanent change

  • The Winner's Bible shows you how to permanently rewire your brain and transform your life using the same groundbreaking tools neuroscientist Dr Kerry Spackman customized for elite athletes, Olympic champions and businesspeople. When he was asked by a top Formula 1 team to help a champion driver who was struggling, despite having been treated by some of the best Sports Psychologists, Psychotherapists and Counsellors available, Dr Spackman quickly realised a new approach was needed. this approach was so successful, he was soon swamped by demand.

  • The only solution was to write his tools and techniques down in a single, easy to read book so that everyone could have access to the same tools the World Champions had. the Winner's Bible is a riveting read filled with real life examples you'll never forget.

  • Dr Spackman shows you how to "Rewire your Brain for Permanent Change". He explains why most self-help books don't work and why his program does. the proof of his tools is demonstrated in the lives of the people he's changed. A fully revised and updated edition.

Through the Eyes of a Foster Child | Daryl Brougham's story of more than 30 foster homes in New Zealand.

  • Best-selling book on a young man's traumatic childhood in foster care. Sold over 4,000 copies in Australia and New Zealand in its first four months. In 1990, at the age of ten, Daryl Brougham was told by a social worker he was useless and would end up in jail. By 1997, he had attended 27 schools, been through over 30 social workers and lived in more than 30 different foster homes. During his 18 years as a state ward he suffered repeated sexual, physical, emotional and psychological abuse. Rising above all the abuse, Daryl proved that social worker wrong. A quality New Zealand book.

Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay | a step by step guide to help you decide whether to stay in or get out of your relationship.

  • There are many books that promise to help you fix a bad relationship. This groundbreaking bestseller is the first one to help you choose whether you should even try--or if you need to go. Psychotherapist Mira Kirshenbaum draws on years of research and her work with real-life couples to help you make the right decision. She shows you how to diagnose your unique situation with self-analysis and questions like these, which get to the very heart of your problems: - What sins are forgivable and which ones are unpardonable?

    • Is your partner questioning your opinions to the point where you doubt yourself?

    • What is your sex life really like, and how important is it?

    • Is there real love left between you, and how does it stack up against all that you find unlovable?

  • Mira Kirshenbaum provides expert guidelines that are the key to making all your choices, concrete steps that you can implement right now, and the ultimate way to determine your personal bottom line--what you need to be happy. This remarkably insightful and probing guide offers advice that lets you see the truth about your relationship--and with wisdom and compassion, it helps you act with the confidence of knowing that whether you decide to go or stay, you are doing the very best thing.