Recommended Reading

Below is a list of books that have been recommended to me over the years. Please contact me if you have any particular recommendations that may be suitable for this page.

Adult recommended reading

For working through the impact for both partners of an affair, and making decisions for your short, medium and long term future

How Women Can Cultivate Desire

Grieving when your child has died

Brene Brown has written a number of books about how courage creates a life worth living

Create a Loving and Safe Environment for Your Blended Family 

The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle 

A mental health guide for men

The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life 

The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections 

Confronting Myths and Promoting Change

Intimate, Pleasurable and Satisfying

For the adult who is trapped in their own psyche

Simple Ways to Get Your Life Back

For individuals and families/whānau affected by any kind of sudden or unexpected death, including accidental death, natural sudden death, suicide, murder and the death of a baby or child

For couples interested in creating freer, more joyful, and profoundly intimate relationships, it explores the delicate balance of being true to oneself and being loved by another

The Logic of Misogyny

Allen Carr’s Easy Way To Stop Smoking is the world’s best-selling book on how to stop smoking, with over 13,000,000 copies sold in over 38 different languages

Improving Gender Equality at Home

A book about hope

How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection

How to be more confident

If you have anxiety, this book is for you. If you love someone who is anxious, this book is for you.

Live Shamelessly, Reclaim Your Joy, and Step into Your Most Authentic Self

New knowledge and know-how for grandparenting the under 5s

Highly sensitive people (HSPs), who make up some 20 per cent of the population, are individuals who both enjoy and suffer from a finely tuned neurological system

Your Guide to the Most Successful Approach to Building Loving Relationships

Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women

Renata Taylor-Byrne and Jim Byrne have outlined key research findings on the relationship between diet and exercise, on the one hand, and the intensity of anger, anxiety and depression emotions on the other

Recognise your patterns, heal from your past & create your self

The Remarkable Story of How One Man Defied the Odds 

In the 1950s and 1960s, Jack LaLanne revolutionized the physical fitness and health industry by promoting and teaching exercise and nutrition

A neurosurgeon's true story of the life-changing magic of mindfulness and compassion that inspired the hit K-pop band BTS

Support children in learning to manage anxiety, and help them take crucial steps to understanding and dealing with their emotions

The New York Times bestseller from the author of Chasing the Scream, offering a radical new way of thinking about depression and anxiety

Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers

A Practical Guide to Relationship Success 

A New York City therapist examines the paradoxical relationship between domesticity and sexual desireand explains what it takes to bring lust home.

A number of books to inspire & educate

Build your mind for strength & resilience every day

In Mind Power Into the 21st Century, John Kehoe has articulated a set of life-changing principles for charting a course to success and happiness

To help men break the pattern of seeking approval as a motivation for their life decisions (and end the passive-aggressive pattern)

A story with incredible lessons on self discovery through adversity

"A playful, enlightening, and creative collection (Spirituality and Practice) of spiritual lessons, anecdotes, and thoughts on the Divine's intervention in our lives

Your Bullsh*t-free Guide to Living With Anxiety

Straightforward, practical strategies for common childhood challenges

The Politics of Feeling Good

Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges 

Reset your mind • improve your energy • enhance your health

A Trans and Non-Binary Guide to Intimacy, Pleasure and Relationships

How to rewire your brain for a happier, healthier life

The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder

Self esteem improvement

A number of options at this search; see what resonates with you

Prompts and Practices for Getting in Touch with Your Body

A guide to raising sexually healthy, informed, empowered young people

One Man's Journey to Healing and the Global Anti-Violence Movement He Inspired

Practical, get-ahead strategies to survive your daughter’s teenage years

improve your sleep, improve your health

The Body Is Not An Apology

The Power of Radical Self-Love

An Encyclopedia of Feelings from Anger to Wanderlust

How to stay sane, stay calm and stay connected to your kids

Trauma, Illness & Healing in a Toxic Culture

The Truth about Men, Sex, and Pleasure

A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment

A counterintuitive approach to living a good life

The Velveteen Rabbit's journey towards becoming real - through the love of a child 

Based on The Velveteen Rabbit - a lovely, gentle introduction to self awareness and living authentically

Rewire your brain for permanent change

Daryl Brougham's story of more than 30 foster homes in New Zealand

Why Starting Small Makes Lasting Change Easy

A step by step guide to help you decide whether to stay in or get out of your relationship

Clinical Approaches to Trans Sexualities and Erotic Embodiments

How to live and work from your Zone of Genius

Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing

Child & youth recommended reading

Aroha's Way : A children's guide through emotions

Supporting youngsters who have domestic violence in their lives

Curly teaches Loppy how to manage his worries, specifically his worries about going to school (it can be applied to any challenging situation)

A heart-warming tale about the love between a dog and their person, and a sensitive exploration of depression and anxiety

A girl who liked to worry

The story of a family bound by love as they cope with their grandma’s dementia

A touching story about curiosity, empathy, care of the environment, and overcoming fears

A picture book with humour & heart for everyone who has ever felt like they're on the outside looking in

Making Sense of Emotions (for children age 6-9)

Making Sense of Emotions is a children's book based on understanding and coping with everyday life situations

The story of a little girl with cancer and her tale of recovery

It’s not always easy to be brave!

Starting school can be scary sometimes!

A poignant picture book that explores how a child can cope with the loss of a parent

Embracing diversity in a child's mind

The story of a child who has just moved house and is struggling to cope with all the changes in her life

Helping children to understand what's possible if a parent has mental health challenges

Helping others and accepting change can reduce childhood anxiety

The Velveteen Rabbit's journey towards becoming real - through the love of a child